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The biggest mistake we make in love is assuming that our partners’ experience is the same as ours and that events and behaviors mean the same to them as they do to us. In the beginning of relationships, this illusion of sameness allows us to feel some measure of safety in the face of Toddler brain vulnerability. To ward off the dread of failure (and feelings of inadequacy), we talk ourselves into pleasant delusions:

“Our hearts beat as one.”
“We’re soul mates.”
“We’re so close that we complete each other’s sentences.”
“She really believes in … (to read more)

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